What is the Art of Loving?


Starts with knowing oneself and one’s Self, realizing and actualizing oneself

Emerges from an authentic need and desire to love and to be loved

Involves skilfulness in

  • self expression
  • holding and respecting healthy boundaries of self and other
  • reality check
  • giving and receiving
  • regulating one’s thoughts, emotions, and desires
  • realizing one’s own fullness
  • kindness
  • the Art of Repair


“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing
and rightdoing there is a field.
I’ll meet you there.

When the soul lies down in that grass
the world is too full to talk about.”
― Rumi



  • willingness (positive intent) to see and recognize the Essence on Self and Other
  • willingness (positive intent) to honest exploration of self and other
  • willingness (positive intent) to face challenges with an intent for transformation and growth
  • willingness to let go of negative attachments (to fear, pride, selfishness, wound, limiting images and beliefs, destructive defences, masks and pretence)
  • willingness (positive intent) to chose for Love in every present moment experience
  • willingness to feel one’s feelings
  • willingness to take responsibility for own actions, thoughts, needs, desires, words
  • willingness to letting go of responsibility for someone else’s actions, thoughts, needs, desires, words
  • willingness to care for oneself and the other, cultivate empathy, kindness, love, respect and compassion
  • willingness to open to forgive (self and other)
  • willingness to open and work toward healing and repair


“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
― Rumi